Tuesday, May 6, 2014

On motherhoood

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With Mother's Day just around the corner I really have been thinking about my role as a mother and what I want to experience and what I want my kids to remember.

I remember before I had Daxton sooo many people tell me, "better live your life to fullest... have fun while you can because once you have kids your whole life changes".....  "and make sure you get as much sleep as you can!"... "Just you wait... you'll see" These negative comments were said a lot to me during my pregnancy.

Whenever I heard these comments I always cringed. I knew that my life was going to change and I wasn't going blindly into motherhood thinking it was  going to be all butterflies and roses. But those negative comments lingered and echoed in my head... somehow making me believe I was stopping my life because I was about to step into motherhood.

However, after the three almost four years I've experienced being a mom there were a many things that they failed to tell me.

They failed to tell me about the beauty of motherhood. They failed to mention the excitement that is pumped into life. Kids see life so much different then adults and its so much more exciting. Its exciting to think of new possible ways to show the world to a toddler, to explain the reason why we have blossoms on the tree, or where milk comes from, and actually get to show them a cow! The excitement of figuring out a new trick, seeing a rock splash in water, and figuring out different ways to make funny faces and laughing till it hurts.

And what about love? I have never felt love more deep, for all things. Love for my boys, my husband, my families, and for life. I often watch Tayte and Daxton in a still moment and watch as they process the world around them in a sweet, innocent way. They have a perfect love. And that perfect love can engulf me and I realize the simplistic love they have brought into my life.

And what about the importance of life? Man oh man, there can be so many times through out the day where I can get wrapped up with the silly, unimportant things of life. And then in a second, I remember was is important because of a little 3 and 1 year old human body. Because they are the ones that really know whats important. They are there to teach me to slow down, to pay attention and to love.

Alt Summit is doing a great collaboration with Every Mother Counts and I just wanted to chime in with a few bits I had about mothering.
#Alt Summit believes every mother counts

8 comments:

Cassidy and Daniel Stephens said...

Beautifully said shelbs. Thank you for sharing your feelings and thoughts. Your an amazing mom and you can see how happy your boys are!!

LDR said...

I was never able to become a mother myself, but I certainly have the best of Mother's who always shares of herself and taught us to love each other unconditionally. I'm so old now-but still to this day my Mother looks at me and kisses and hugs me the way she always has since I was a child. Her eyes glow when she sees us. Her smile beams widely whenever we talk to her and share our life with her. She is always there....still in her 80's unconditionally. Listening, guiding, sharing, comforting, and you seem to know that is exactly what you want for your boys (including your husband). Happy Mother's Day Shelby!

Kathleen Marie said...

Thank you so much for your sweet comments on motherhood, as someone who is very close to beginning this journey it is nice to hear the good comments and not just all the negativity around being a parent. Thank you for the refreshing outlook! :)

Tonda B said...

Beautifully said....

Kelsi said...

Love this! We need more woman like you in the world Shelby. Makes me excited to be a mom :) And I just have to say that you are a wonderful mother.

Barbara said...

When our children were babes, we certainly lost sleep. But in those precious hours of the night, our hearts swelled with such love and we were grateful to be awake.

Were we busy? Yes! Instead of going to the movies, or out to dinner, we went to ball games, school plays, the park or Chuckie Cheese. But there was no where else on earth we would have rather been! We were watching OUR son play ball. That was OUR daughter doing performing in a play she and her friends had written.

Now the kids are grown and we have more time to go to movies or take vacations for two. Now we celebrate a return to being a couple and not always a group. And yet, every time I see kids playing soccer, my heart skips a beat...come on grandchildren!!!!!

Erika said...

So true! I don't know why people dwell on the negative when you are first pregnant. Obviously sleep may be a bit interrupted… but that's such a minor part of motherhood! Happy Mother's Day! This is my first time seeing your blog, and your little boys are the cutest:)

Marcia Hansen said...

There is so much negative about being a mother now days. But the joy far out ways anything,even 5am wakings :). I loved reading all the things that bring you joy with your boys and make you love being a mom.
Beautifully said and the pictures are amazing as usual.